So I’ve realized that a lot of people (especially men) have many many opinions about women; what a woman should do, how she should behave, what she shouldn’t do etc. Every day there’s at least one tweet that talks about (attacks) women and this annoys me so much. That’s why I have decided that each Friday, I’m going to take one outrageous tweet that talks about women, and talk about it, in order to kind of educate people out there who are thinking the same way.

Tweet of the week:

So this young man woke up one early morning to drag women who have made the decision not to have children.

First of all, there’s nothing wrong with being selfish and materialistic, especially when it involves a decision I’m making about MY body! It’s my body, so of course I’m going to be selfish. So this young man isn’t even making any sense in the first place. Or who else am I supposed to consider when making this decision? My future/current husband? My parents? My in-laws? My friends? Society? Is that what he was thinking?

Okay so the first thing this man needs to understand is that this is a pure case of my body, my choice, and no uterus, no opinion! You don’t get to have a say about what I get to do with my body and you don’t get to judge me for any decision I make in regards to my body.

Secondly, if you want to talk about considering other people, you need to understand that as a woman who has decided not to have children, any man I want to marry is a man who also doesn’t want to have children. Also, what if I don’t want to get married? Have you thought about that?

Let’s move away from marriage, if you want to talk about considering my parents, if they love me, they’ll accept my decision not to have kids and it would also be selfish of them to want me to have children when I have decided not to, just for the sake of them having grandchildren. So you see, everybody is being selfish. At the end of the day, if they don’t accept my decision, it’s still MY body. As for my friends and society, my body, my choice and if you can’t understand that, that’s your business and you don’t belong in my life.

Wait you want me to push a child out of my body that I don’t want just because other people do? Just because I’m considering other people? Does that even make any sense?

And yes, I don’t want to have children because I’m materialistic and so? I want to travel the world, I want to spend money on myself, I want to buy stuff without having to think about whether it would affect the child or not, I don’t want to be worried about September getting close just because I have to pay school fees. What’s wrong with that?

Asides being physically unable, there are so so many other reasons why women decide not to have children and you should read up or ask questions about those because I’m not going to do intellectual labour on behalf of a man who has decided to be intentionally obtuse.

It’s quite funny because I’m 100% sure he wouldn’t say the same thing about men who have decided not to have children.

And NO, I won’t change my mind eventually so stop saying that and leave me alone.